How to Cope with Hard Times (Part 3)
If you’re listening to this podcast, you’re probably a high-achieving type A mother and you’re exhausted. Maybe struggling with exhaustion and burnout.
You have checked all the boxes of success and aren’t happy.
You don’t have to feel exhausted anymore. Imagine a life with no more burnout, more confidence more peace of mind.
That is possible for you because it has been for me and my clients.
With a little work, in 90 days or less, you can be out of burnout and enjoying your life again. Check out my free on demand masterclass 4 Steps to Overcome Burnout, Get Rid of Overwhelm, and Finally Get Your Peace of Mind Back.
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This is the final episode in this 3 part series on dealing with hard times.
Today I’m going to focus on something I practice and teach to my clients and that is mindfulness.
So crazy this episode was in the works when I received stressful news, but I used tools from last week and this week’s episode and it actually makes me pretty unshakeable.
Amazing what we can do when we take an active role in shifting our perspectives, mindset, and practice a little bit of discipline with our thoughts along with mindfulness practice.
Focus on mindfulness and some Buddhist principles…but not in a boring snoring way…I want to put a relatable spin on it ok?!
Mindfulness has so many benefits…but one major one besides allowing us to
The first noble truths of Buddhism is about recognizing the existence of suffering.
In his book You Are Here, Thich Nhat Hanh says that through suffering we discover the fourth noble truth, which is the path to healing. In fact the fourth noble truth is Marga, the path that transforms suffering into well-being.
Pain won’t kill us (usually)
Allowing ourselves to be present with the pain and know it likely won’t kill us. Sitting with and noticing the negative feelings. Being present with them. Crying if we need.
We can observe the pain of the hard time. By becoming an observer, we can distance ourselves from the negative emotions.
Sitting with emotions also allow us to not buffer as much with overeating, overdrinking, over Netflixing etc.
Sitting with emotions also increases our resilience and keeps us out of the obsession swirl of thoughts or rabbit hole our brain wants us to indulge in.
Practicing mind body awareness…focusing on our breath, counting our breaths, or acknowledging there is a body can help get us out of our heads with the spinning thoughts when we are dealing with a crisis or feel threatened.
Manage your mind and practice mindfulness:
Don’t let yourself spin stories or obsess over shit that doesn’t matter
I had a client thinking about an awkward situation re-tipping at a resort and I pointed out to her that it didn’t matter she didn’t have the brain space and energy to entertain all of this. She wasn’t even going through a hard time…but especially if you are.
Practice the above mind-body awareness when your brain is spinning on inconsequential B.S.
Breathe and focus on the breath
To feel calm
Unshrug your shoulders
Tune in to the body
There is a body
Notice where there is tension and try to squeeze and release
Slow down the mind
Focus on what you’re doing: the dishes, prepping meals, or a work task
Don’t multi-task
When you’re kids are being cute, tune in and pay attention be present, and drop the swirls in your mind you can choose to not perseverate
The 3N Method
Notice
Neutralize
New
From Yung Pueblo’s writing:
Essentials to remember on tough days:
Practice patience
Accept what you feel
Do not punish yourself
Make sure you get good rest
Give yourself ample kindness
Accomplish smaller goals that day
Do things that will calm your mind
A bad moment does not equal a bad life
Struggle can be a space for deep growth
This current discomfort is not permanent
They asked her,
"What is real happiness?"
She answered,
"Happiness is not fulfilling every pleasure or getting every outcome you desire. Happiness is being able to enjoy life with a peaceful mind that is not constantly craving for more. It is the inner peace that comes with embracing change."
yung pueblo | being
Imagine a burnout-free life with more confidence and more peace of mind.
That is possible for you because it has been for me and my clients.
With a little work, and not much time, you can be out of burnout and enjoying your life again. Check out my free on-demand masterclass 4 Steps to Overcome Burnout, Get Rid of Overwhelm, and Finally Get Your Peace of Mind Back.