End Exhaustion By Keeping it Simple
If you’re listening to this podcast, you’re probably a high-achieving type A mother and you’re exhausted. Maybe struggling with exhaustion and burnout.
You have checked all the boxes of success and aren’t happy.
You don’t have to feel exhausted anymore. Imagine a life with no more burnout, more confidence more peace of mind.
That is possible for you because it has been for me and my clients.
With a little work, in 90 days or less, you can be out of burnout and enjoying your life again. Check out my free on demand masterclass 4 Steps to Overcome Burnout, Get Rid of Overwhelm, and Finally Get Your Peace of Mind Back.
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Easy does it is an al anon saying that I love so much
We take our lives so seriously
Sometimes like everything is do or die and it’s not.
We give a lot of energy to things that don’t actually matter in the long run.
When are lives are said and done, we want to be able to look back on them in a certain way. That we lived how we wanted. Impacted others positively.
So getting caught up with and stressed out by moment to moment things are an energy drainer and really don’t add to our longer term vision
If you don’t know what I’m referring to in vision etc…because this is a part of my program one of the first modules creating a vision
Episode 1 your dream life starts with intention
If we can create a vision and try to live in alignment with our values, we can have a larger view of your life…this helps to zoom out and not get caught up with the nitty gritty of life.
When we are already wearing a bunch of different hats, we have so much on our plate, wasting time and energy is just something we have to be very mindful of.
When you are obsessing over a mistake or imperfection because we all have perfectionistic tendencies here, ask yourself if this really matters in the long run. Would your 80 year old self care? If not, then decide in that moment to drop it. If you can’t stop obsessing, practice mind body awareness and get into your head and out of your body.
Keep things simple. A client told me she had her daughter’s birthday party sorted out at a hard to book place in a local park. In another session, she said that they were changing the weekend. We paused and I told her to keep things simple. Regardless of the weekend, the party wasn’t going to be perfect. Nothing ever is. If enough kids didn’t show up, her daughter probably wouldn’t remember it in the scheme of her life.
I gave her this example and will give it to you also. I booked a party for my 5 year old son’s birthday party at a local playspace where they pretty much do everything for you. Now, I did this to simplify things for myself.
However, there wasn’t a great weekend to have the party because I am on call one weekend a month, my au pair was arriving that month, and my son’s spring break was that month. The playspace called me saying the original date I booked didn’t work, so we had to change it to the first Saturday of his spring break. I knew there was a risk of not that many people showing up, so I started to invite more people. But I knew there was no perfect solution here. I needed to keep it simple so I kept that date.
I spent one day shopping for the stuff for the birthday.
It was a lovely party that he will remember and had enough children to make a decently sized party.
The moral of this long winded story is that I kept it very simple for myself…it wasn’t do or die. I wasn’t going to add extra stress and tasks for myself because I knew that stress probably wouldn’t end up for a greater good but actually just deplete me in the end.
Being aware is the first step of this work. Aware of the extra tasks your taking on. Aware of how your brain is functioning
In this episode, I want to focus on awareness of creating extra work for ourselves when we don’t need to.
We can keep it basic and simple
Think about the things you obsess over with your kids…are those things that bothered you? If so, why? But also, we can’t control our children’s perception of their childhoods…we can only do our best and keep trying to learn and grow.