How To Cope with Hard Times (Part 2)
If you’re listening to this podcast, you’re probably a high-achieving type A mother and you’re exhausted. Maybe struggling with exhaustion and burnout.
You have checked all the boxes of success and aren’t happy.
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That is possible for you because it has been for me and my clients.
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In the last episode, we discussed categorizing hardships in life as
Common hard:
Hard/hard but also normal often a big change
Out there hard where you might feel alone:
If you haven’t listened to episode 47, definitely go back and do that..
Categorizing things takes away their burn.
In this episode I’m going to walk you through processing pain and how to actually deal with hard times in a way that allows you to have peace of mind no matter what.
If you’re driving come back to this but I would definitely grab a pen and paper and take notes on this…you might forget but there are some real pearls here that will help you when shit hits the fan…and it always does…because this is life!
Today I’m going to discuss mindset work and actionable tips
Next week I will dive into mindfulness practices for hard times.
1. hard times happen…this is a part of life…nothing has gone wrong even if it feels like it…this is a part of my journey and is bringing me to where I need to go next.
Hard times give us a barometer for the good…without them we wouldn’t know what true joy and fortune are.
By doing this, we can make peace with what is happening that we can’t control.
2.Hard times are temporary. Nothing lasts forever. The only constant in life is change. This, too, shall pass.
This fact helps us to not get overly sucked in to the misery of a tough time. We can know that there will be relief at some point.
Example: 3 years I took off between undergrad and medical school
3. One step at a time…one hour at a time…one minute at a time.
First of all the experience of our life is happening right now. I don’t plan super far in advance for regular things other than travel…because I’m dealing with and experiencing the now…and the universe as we know often laughs at our plans.
When something makes us feel like we are overloaded, we can care for ourselves by taking things one baby step at a time to cope or perhaps solve for or take action.
Along with this
4.Take the pressure off
This hard time isn’t going to be solved in this minute…so how are you going to create peace in your brain to make it more bearable?
Easy does it, ease up on yourself.
Know that you are figuring things out
You are okay and will be no matter what
You don’t have to have all of the answers today
There is no pressure to figure it all out in this current moment.
There is time.
5.Pre-emptive processing
Imagine that much of this won’t matter as much won’t sting as much a few days from now a week, month, or year from now
Transposing future attitude on the now…being able to put things in perspective.
6.Pain won’t kill us (usually)
7.Acceptance of the tough time…shit happens. Life gets tough truly. People are dealing with all kinds of hardship like we discussed in the previous episode…so accept it as happening…it doesn’t have to define you…
Acceptance meaning don’t fight the force…accept what’s happening and you can take action as you see fit…
8.Acceptance of the fact that we can only control ourselves
Trying to control what is outside of us doesn’t work.
Ex: addiction…we can’t control addicts…we can only decide in what capacity we want to interact with them and create boundaries.
But accepting that we can’t control things outside of ourselves
9.Anti-isolation
There are others who are dealing with the same thing
seek help with a therapist, coach, friends, family
10.Self-compassion
Not blaming ourselves for everything…giving ourselves grace if we are struggling or having a bad day.
Knowing we are human beings and imperfect inherently and embracing our experience for better or for worse.
11.Thinking about lessons
Asking yourself how this might serve you in the future or what are you learning?
What have you learned?
12.Self-care and practical tips
Sleeping if you need
Sleep enough
Eat properly, hydrate
Exercise or take a walk
13.Belief in self and action mode:
I can do this
Think of all of the hard times you’ve emerged from before
Know you can solve problems
Can get into an action mode
Deciding a course of action and what to do next
This is empowering
14.Simplify:
Say no to extra projects
Be very picky about how you’re spending time
Be picky about who your spending time with
Now this is important in general but especially when you’re dealing with something hard
15.Take time
For yourself
To stop and smell the roses or whatever you want to do
Take a personal day or two from work if you need.
16.Finding joy in hard times
Nature
Fresh air
A scented candle
Hugs with your children
Wonder with you kids…they say and do the darndest things
Humor…funny shows, movies, or call your friend who’s funny
Laugh at what your kids say
Do a dance
Hang out with friends
Do something just for you
Go to your favorite restaurant or other favorite place
There is a lot of material in today’s episode
Don’t get overwhelmed…pick a couple of things you would like to try when dealing with a difficult time and see what a difference practicing these strategies will make.
Feel free to message me on Instagram at doctor Prianca if you enjoyed this series on dealing with hardship.
Imagine a life free of constant exhaustion and fatigue, more confidence more peace of mind.
That is possible for you because it has been for me and my clients.
With a little work, not much time, you can be out of burnout and enjoying your life again. Check out my free on demand masterclass 4 Steps to Overcome Burnout, Get Rid of Overwhelm, and Finally Get Your Peace of Mind Back.