Ways To Not Feel Lonely For Working Moms
I want to start by sharing a recent client breakthrough. A client of mine who had tried all the things: podcasts, meditation, ted talks, and therapy, came to me wanting to enjoy her life when she felt miserable day to day even though she shouldn’t because she has a beautiful family and likes her job. However, through our work together, she can enjoy the crucial moments in her life, especially with her children, and also bounce back from the negative moments and curve balls a lot more quickly: resilience.
My coaching program helps moms in male-dominated fields suffering from burnout to enjoy the life they’ve worked so hard to build, using my proven methodology to heal the underlying causes of burnout.
To get started on enjoying your life,
Check out my free masterclass on the four methods to love your life link in the show notes.
Many of us have been taught to strive for excellence. This is fabulous, don’t get me wrong. This principle helps us to achieve at work and in our personal lives. Checking off all of the boxes. And then, we grow up or approach mid-life and wonder why we are exhausted and unhappy.
Often, this need for the good life or picture of perfection can isolate us. As a result, we retreat and feel alone when we go through something that reveals our lack of perfection or shatters the perfect Instagram family photo.
Some clients go through problems and feel completely alone, but they aren’t. We are all struggling with a variation of the same issues, even if we are under the delusion that we are the only ones.
Remember, although we are our greatest ally and should learn to act accordingly, there are also people, friends, and family who will love and support us unconditionally whether we can afford a multi-million dollar house or have a seemingly perfect life or not.
Here is how to combat loneliness:
Realize you aren’t alone:
-you have yourself; get comfortable with yourself (examples being alone, sitting in quiet alone, taking the self out to dinner, reading alone, dancing alone, taking a class by yourself)
-Learn to love your own company
-When you have a problem, feel alone, or feel isolated in your negative emotion, take time to be with yourself. Put your hand on your chest and be present with whatever is going on. This is having your own back. Begin making a habit of this.
-Know that people generally want to help; you just have to ask. If you’re feeling lonely about something or isolated, reach out to someone your gut tells you you can trust and open up. You will be surprised how supportive good friends can be.
-Join support groups with people with similar issues. For those in homes with abuse, for example, get into domestic violence support groups or alcoholism, there is al-anon; this will build your sense of community
-there are a million FB physician groups where I have found a sense of community and connection
-deepen the friendships you already have. Nurture them.
-in addition to taking yourself out alone regularly, make regular connections with friends and family.
-decrease social media consumption; promise not to scroll late at night. It’s a waste of time and energy; set aside time. Put limits on your phone for using the apps. Or delete them altogether.
-if you find yourself trying to fill your void with food, drink, or any other buffering, approach yourself with kind curiosity and practice being okay with yourself alone
-practice meditation and mindfulness; this helps to distance us from our thoughts and empower us.
Once you learn to feel at home, you will seek external approval and completion. What I mean is many of us were raised to believe we need a romantic partner to complete us. We don’t. It is beautiful to have a healthy partnership; however, we don’t need it.
Remember to work on yourself before inviting a partner in if you are a single parent. You will come from a much better, less grassy place. You won’t be trying to fill a lonely void because your life will be complete with just you and your children.
My coaching program helps moms in male-dominated fields suffering from burnout to enjoy the life they’ve worked so hard to build, using my proven methodology to heal the underlying causes of burnout.
To get started on enjoying your life,
Check out my free masterclass on four methods to love your life link in the show notes.