Perspective Shifts in Overcoming Burnout

Hello. Thank you so much for tuning in today. I'm glad to have you here, actually, I'm so happy to have you here. So, thanks for listening and I hope you're doing well. I know, I am, I've had like a hoarse voice for a couple of weeks on and off and my voice, I think is finally back, so I'm grateful for that. And that means that I'm able to record this podcast today. So, if you're listening this podcast, you might be a high achieving type A mom and you're probably exhausted. Maybe even struggling with burnout. You've probably done all the right things. You've an awesome resume. You've checked the boxes for success, conventional success. As we know it right? But maybe you're not happy but you really don't have to feel this way forever. Imagine a life beyond burnout where you have confidence peace of mind better relationships and I know this is possible for you because it has been for me and my clients with a little bit of work and not a whole lot of time. You can be out of burnout and truly enjoying your life every single day. Check out my free on-demand master class “4 Steps to Overcome Burnout, Get Rid of Overwhelm and finally, Get your Peace of Mind Back”. Link will be in the show notes. Check it out. You don't want to miss it.

So, I'm going to talk today about our perspective, the lens with which we see the world. And our lens, and our perspective, there's so important because they create how we experience our reality, how we experience our lives. And it just reminds me of playing. I used to play Super Nintendo, Jeopardy. I loved Jeopardy. And I memorize all the answers and one of the descriptions was rose-colored glasses. That was the answer. What are rose-colored glasses? I don't know. I don't know what the prompt was for that. I don't even think I understood what that meant at the time, because I was only maybe 10 years old or so 10 or 11. And now I understand rose-colored glasses and realize that it means, you know, putting a Rosy lens on things. So that gives you a little context for what we are going to talk about today. This is one of my favorite topics actually and it's come up in a few of my coaching sessions and I thought you would find it useful or I knew you would find it useful.

So, lenses are how we see the world, how our lives are unfolding, how we experience our lives. And when we empower ourselves to control our lens to change our lens, to work on our mindset, we increase our peace of mind, we have more energy and therefore we're able to overcome exhaustion and burnout. One of the key components of burnout High-achieving moms like ourselves is really being in the thick of it. Where let's say you have young children, you've got a high-power career. There's so much going on. It is very easy to default to being overwhelmed and exhausted. If you let yourself drown in it and most people do. However, if we can start seeing our lives today from the following lenses has it becomes so much easier. So, I'm going to give you two specific lenses, you can use in your day-to-day life that will shift your perspective to really keep things in perspective, have peace of mind and not have that modus operandi. Where you feel like you're drowning, you're in the thick of it. You're in survival mode. No, there's no room for that. Here, we want to get out of survival mode. Okay. And into a better freaking life. All right, I have, I will tell you a little anecdote.

Oh, I have, you know, I have stressful situations going on all the time and a lot of people can be like, oh like I don't know how you do it. Like your life is must be so hard. This is hard and I don't, that's one thing I really don't enjoy people saying that to me, because I don't think it's helpful telling me that things are hard. But what I will tell you is that no matter what comes up in my life, I'm able to, I know I can, manage it. So, I don't stress out about impending stressors and I really use my lenses to make decisions and see things in a way where I have perspective. So, I don't get sucked into - narratives or adding extra layers of stress and suffering to what might already be a stressful situation. And that's why I'm teaching you how to do the same.

So here we go 2 lenses today, lens number one is my future self or your future self. It's my 80-year-old self. So, ask yourself what your 18-year-old self would do or what that 80-year-old self would have to say about any given situation and this immediately gives perspective and maturity to a situation, right? Because we're so busy thinking that we have forever to live and you know, we're in the thick of trying to make money and trying to rear our kid. Feed them. Keep them alive, all those things and it's just easy to get lost in the day-to-day rot, the to-do lists and allow all of that to make us miserable. So, try this 80-year-old lens to Any Given put it on any given situation and see how it feels. I'm going to give you a personal example of my own my baby was sick recently and my au pair who so wonderful, God lover. She Had just started with me and I was new to my au pair being my backup child care, which of course, that's why she's there and I had patients to see that day. Now, I wasn't sure if I wanted to take my daughter into the pediatrician yet so, you know that, but I had a lot going on and I was trying to manage, you know, my Au pairs hours properly, meanwhile, take care of my daughter. And I'm sure you can imagine this exact scenario, right? You have definitely been there at one time or another.

And again people often say about these situations it's so hard which okay. Yeah it's not easy, right? But I took my eight-year-old lens and I knew that this time in my life isn't coming back. I'm grateful for the back of childcare and also, I was forced in a way to spend extra time with my daughter snuggling and cuddling reading her stories. And I was so grateful for that and it was lovely. And that way I mean it wasn't lovely that she was sick, but it was a gift of getting extra time with her. Okay. And so that is the eight-year-old lens because when we say, oh, it's so hard, not only is that even whether it's true or not, that's a moment isn't helpful, right? And it makes us feel even more tired. So, we add to our own exhaustion. What is the point about? We're just making things worse for ourselves, so I'm just trying to show you if you're not aware that, this is what's going on. Like just be aware of when you're doing these things and catch yourself in playing into the negative, narratives, or hard it is, or how exhausted you are. Because the more we keep saying that to ourselves, the more, we really feel it, even more, and more, because these small things may seem innocuous, but they are contributing to your own sustenance sense of exhaustion and burnout. So, I knew of course that this day was going to come and go the one with my daughter, being sick and everything would be. Okay, right. And it's just a part of being a working parent is, it is what it is. It happens to everyone and I knew that, you know, I had a new few thing to juggle including my new au pair, who is a huge blessing and it was fine before I could stress. I had the wherewithal, the awareness to ask what my eight-year-old Prianka self would say. And she would say life is large and long. The stay is going to pass. You'll figure. Figure it out. Just like you always have just like you always will enjoy the extra time with your daughter time and life are precious. And that's exactly what I did.

But do you see how with this lens? This shift and shift impacted my perspective and therefore, impacted my day and ultimately, ultimately my life. It gave me a sense of Peace. It gave me gratitude, so I wasn't contributing to my own sense of tired, stress, exhaustion. Okay. I'm going to challenge you here and challenge you to commit to asking yourself, what your eight-year-old self would say, in any big decision that comes up. We are not certain. Or when you're stressed, she's older. She's wiser, she's calmer and by taking her advice, you will be wiser and calmer too, see how I did that. Try it and let try this lens on for size and let me know how It goes message me @doctorprianca on Instagram. My name is, prianca, not the traditional, Indian spelling of Priyanka with the “Y” and the “K”, just just FYI. Now the second lens I'm going to discuss is the one of the persons who loves you. The lens of self-love and self-love gets talked about a lot and that's because it is a key component of peace of mind ending exhaustion. Ending burnout. Self-love is actually one component of a pillar in my program called self-empowerment because it's so important in this work. And really, I know for a lot of people depending on their background, depending on their childhoods, self-love is a real stretch, but I think as mother's we know how we love our own children and we love them unconditionally, right? And so, taking how we love our children and transposing that onto ourselves.

For example, what would you do if you loved yourself? What would you tell your child to do in this situation, right? Because once you pretend to love yourself, and in this case, really fake it till you make it really ask yourself questions. What would I do if and you can put the lens of what you would want your child to do. And that really helps you in making difficult decisions. It really increases your sense of clarity and I have a client story that I've mentioned I believe before, but a female physician was in a very tough situation relationship with her spouse. Who is also a physician, they had two small children and he was verbally and mainly verbally but sometimes physically abusive towards her and she put up with that because she didn't believe in divorce and she really wanted to stay married.

So, she tolerated behavior that she told me that she'd even recognize who she was anymore, that she was surprised that she would tolerate such disrespect and it was not a good example for her children and we really started working on Self-love and through her work with me on loving herself. She eventually asked herself. What would Ido if I love myself, if I love myself, what I keep putting myself In. harms way, would I keep being here, getting hurt, mentally and physically, and once she actually truly loved herself, she decided to physically get away from him and she moved out. So that is the power of self-love. And I'm not saying that you have to have such an extreme situation, whatsoever, okay? Self-love can be as simple as if I love myself. What would I say to taking on an extra call weekend? And if I love myself, I would say no. So, you say no similar to last week's episode when we talk about boundaries, but it's a similar concept, where you really treat yourself with love and care. You treat yourself with kindness, you have a kind of voice to yourself, and I know this might sound corny, because, when I first started, and learning about these Concepts and practicing them. They felt lame to me. I'm being honest about that. But with time, I learn that pretending even or being aware of the mean voice in my head. The critical voice and not playing into it and really trying to give myself some compassion for being Human in my not best moments by imperfect moments. My mistakes that really created so much inner peace. Right? And, and that is really what we're craving. Inner peace is our ticket, out of burnout, right? So that's just something to keep in mind.

So, the next time you have a big decision, where maybe you're spinning and fusion, ask yourself, what would you do if you loved yourself? What would you tell your child to do? Put the self-love lens on it and believe me, you will get so much clarity so quickly, you're going to have peace of mind. And a lot faster than anything, you've probably tried before and I know you've I'm guessing right? I don't know, but I'm guessing you've tried yoga, therapy, self-help books, books on tape. Maybe you have a long stack of books on your bookshelf that you want to read and you just haven't gotten to it, am I right? Or am I right? But these methods will get you the results. The peace of mind that you want that, you've been craving, try these things, let me know how it goes. You can find me @doctorprianca on Instagram and really shoot me a message. I would love to hear about how this is helping you, and if you want to dive even deeper, check out my free on-demand masterclass, watch it anytime you want. It's about 40 minutes for steps to overcome burnout, get rid of overwhelm and finally, get your peace of mind back. Link is in the show notes. Thanks for tuning in and I will talk to you next week.