Create Joy Always By Being You

Good morning. Hi. Thank you so much for tuning in today. I am energetic as usual, it's super early I haven't had my morning cup of coffee yet. And it's not my modus operandi to be up so early but I have a busy day and I want to get this podcast out to you. I will tell you that I did not apply for a surgical residency because I knew I just couldn't deal with the surgeon. You know wake up at 5 something AM lifestyle. I remember having to wake up at 4 in medical school for my surgical rotation and it was the worst. So, that being said, I'm going to get started on today's topic, which is really being able to be a human being outside of being a mom and checking off that bucket list.

Before we dive in. I want to let you know that enrollment is open right group coaching program for professional moms who are mentally exhausted to enjoy the life that they worked so hard to build book call with  www.priancanaikmdcoaching.as.me and apply to work with me. I would love to talk to you see where you are. And see if you're a good fit for my program. Do not be shy. I love talking to each and every one of you.

So, it's okay to be human. All right. That's a part of being perfect. And we're also allowed to be people outside of being moms. Do you remember who you were? Before you became a mother? Feels like another lifetime, right? It feels like so long ago that we were people outside of our motherhood journey. What kind of activities did you like to do? What were your hobbies? Who were you hanging out with? Where are we going? What were you doing? What were you doing when you were in college or in the beginning of working? And would you like to get acquainted with that person? Or would you like to get back to that right? And it's such an interesting thing to think about because when our kids in our lives, it feels like we've been moms forever feels like we've known them forever. Right? But we were people before we became moms. And there's something really beautiful about getting in touch with the person that you once were. But I do want to also talk about the concept of not having too much fun and this is something that I think we're conditioned to do and my clients, I know struggle with this as well. Especially my physician clients. It's this idea that we're supposed to be productive all the time, that either we're supposed to be working, seeing patients earning money that way or we're working at home, being productive, getting stuff done. But the concept of having fun, it's as if we're doing something wrong. And I wonder if part of it is when we were studying for exams in medical school, we had so many exams we have so much studying to do all the time. And if we were having fun, it's almost like we weren't supposed to be doing that.

And I remember specifically before I got into medical school, I didn't think I produced anything. I think my self-worth my sense of self-worth was pretty low. And I remember any time when I would have fun where I got into med school, I felt guilty. So that certainly bleeds into my life now where if I'm not seeing patients or I'm not coaching clients, and I’m doing something I feel like I'm doing something wrong. I'm not supposed to and I'm really working on I've been working on rewiring that and deciding that there is no rulebook on how much money you can have. And, you know, it's really up to each person, how much fun she needs to feel fulfilled or you know, whatever extracurricular activities you want to pursue, you don't have to apologize for it. So, a client of mine actually, when we first started talking, she said that she wanted to play the guitar, and that used to be a hobby of hers and she never found time to do it. And she actually ended up incorporating it into her schedule. And crazily enough she and her daughter are practicing together which is super cool. But you could have an activity that you want to do alone. You don't have to involve your children. Something that brings me tremendous joy is just dancing. I feel so happy. And I do it every day and I do it often. I might do it in my bathroom by myself. Check out my Instagram video for Valentine's Day where I'm dancing in my bathroom. You can see how much fun I'm having. You can find me a Dr. Prianca. But yeah, that's when I feel like myself and they feel carefree. So, I'll do it by myself. I'll also do it with my kids in the kitchen and blast music and that actually had me thinking recently about how can I incorporate dance into my life even more? Can I take a dance class? Maybe? Maybe I will. But that's my point. I you know, I for myself, I want to get more into my hobbies and I do find time for myself. And it helps refresh me because I work on being a human being on top of being a mother having achievements but also enjoying myself. It refreshes me to be present with my kids and it increases my patience for them. Because I allow myself to nurture myself and my desires, right and I encourage you to do the same.

Now, I'm gonna address the bucket lists. Okay? What are some things that you've been wanting to do your whole life and you haven't done? What are some things that you wish you'd done in your 20s but never had a chance? Write them down. Make a list somewhere on your note’s app on your phone, for example. Make a list of all the things that you would like to do in your lifetime. It's so important to look at what has not been checked off. What have you been putting off saying to yourself? Well, I'll do that when because as more it's just as we don't know how much time we have in this earth and really thinking about our mortality. puts a little bit of pressure and a timeline on things to get them done. So, I for one, I always wanted to go to a little town in Spain, and that was something I wanted to do in my 20s I never did. And I'm planning to go this year because life is short and precious and beautiful. Right?

And just remember when it comes to judgment and other people judging what you're doing, are you having too much fun? Are you doing this, are you doing that while traveling a lot or whatever, they may have to say. No one is going to remember much of what we did. The impact we had Yes, the connections we make yes with that. And I read somewhere that literally in another 150 years, there's going to be another generation of people who won't even remember us what difference. We take life too seriously. Sometimes we're too intense about it.

We go crazy over money and our jobs. There other things in life that matter more when I asked my clients to work on their vision earlier, like early on and coaching with me. So many of them talked about the importance of connecting with their families. Connecting with their friends wanting to pursue their hobbies, and yet nobody's taking the time to do these. So, ask yourself what it is that you really want to be doing outside of work outside of the home and make a list and commit to doing at least one thing this year incorporating one hobby this year and one little baby step at a time. So even if it's 5-10 minutes a day of Guitar Practice like my client is doing to that or to the lessons, we're just getting outside your comfort zone. I recently signed up for a conference where I know no body and I purposely did this because I'm going to be forced to meet people, make new friends and expand my world. And it's scary, but also nothing meaning tremendous growth comes from scary hard things, right? So, we have to push ourselves a little bit outside of our comfort zone and decide that we don't care what other people think.

So that's my episode for you today to really get going on your one precious life, do the things where the sequence like I talked about in last week's episode, do what you want to do, because no one's really watching in this, that there is no judge of what the perfect life is, the perfect thing to do it so that you can do something for yourself. Do something that you’ve wanting to do you will feel satisfied and fulfilled. Try that and let me know how it goes.

Enrollment is open my group coaching program launching in March for professional moms who are mentally exhausted and want to enjoy the life that they worked so hard to build. Book a call with me www.priancanaikmdcoaching.as.me apply to work with me. I'd love to talk to you. The link is in the show notes. Thank you so much for tuning in for this brief and mighty episode, and I will talk to you next week.