Here Is What You Should Do For That Nagging Feeling of Having and Wanting to Do It All

No one can do it better than I can.  Type A women can be found uttering this under their breath or in their heads often when dealing with mundane tasks at home or at work. 

I remember Brandi, a full time pediatrician whose physician husband would do the dishes but incorrectly complaining that she would have to redo his subpar dish cleaning.  

Is there a perfect way to load dishes?  Maybe yes; maybe no.  But is thishow she wants to her precious limited spend time?

Doing it all.  Having it all. Something we are led to believe we should do. Or we should have. Well. I want to tell you we shouldn't. 

The key to stopping: 

Let go.

I know this is much easier said than done, but we must try. 

How?

We must practice in small doses :

Start letting go with the cleanliness of the postprandial kitchen. Or perhaps not curating every second of our children's experience. 

You decide. 

Make a list four things that you want to try to cut out and try to find one each week

I'll give you examples of how I do this.

With COVID, my son is out of my sight at camp or with his nanny.  I can't know that he's around fully vaccinated or properly masked people while he's unvaccinated.  However, I can't be with him 24/7.  I can't do it all.  I have to work through my own fears and anxieties and hope for the best, while ultimately letting it go. 

Finishing notes, working, caring for kids, and cooking all in one day. That's a lot. Especially if you find four out of four of these activities draining to some extent.  We can't do it all everyday. Or maybe we can and we feel completely exhausted and unhappy. 

Let's order takeout.  Let's cook once or twice a week. Let's hire someone. 

This way is not perfect by any means.  Chicken nuggets with ketchup and microwaved frozen veggies is ok for my toddler to eat. He'll grow up happy and healthy.  Not breastfeeding and opting for formula could be the “perfect” decision for you and your family.  

How can you let go?

How can you stop doing everything yourself?

How can you stop doing it all?

And stop wanting to do it well?